{"id":38282,"date":"2013-09-10T12:15:49","date_gmt":"2013-09-10T16:15:49","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/inalj.com\/?p=38282"},"modified":"2014-07-31T12:11:59","modified_gmt":"2014-07-31T17:11:59","slug":"asking-for-the-support-you-need","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/inalj.com\/?p=38282","title":{"rendered":"Asking for the Support You Need"},"content":{"rendered":"

by Diana La Femina, Head Editor, INALJ South Carolina<\/a><\/em>
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Asking for the Support You Need<\/span><\/h3>\n

\"diana<\/a>Every month I need to write a blog post with advice to you, and every month I\u2019m faced with the same problem: I don\u2019t feel I\u2019m qualified to be giving advice. Oh, I can tell cautionary tales (\u201cdon\u2019t do what I did\u201d), but actual advice? To do that I feel like I should have succeeded in what I\u2019m trying to give you advice about: landing a library job.<\/p>\n

And yet here I am, an Executive Assistant working an insane job with people I really like, but I couldn\u2019t get further from librarianship unless I took up professional polka dancing.<\/strong> I can use the skills I\u2019ve learned in my library studies for this position, and vice versa, but this isn\u2019t librarianship<\/i>. And that\u2019s not a problem, except when I\u2019m trying to give you advice on how to land a library job.<\/p>\n

The one thing I do feel I\u2019m an expert at is coping with the job search<\/strong>. If I haven\u2019t run off and joined either a monastery or the circus by now I\u2019m obviously doing something that works, right? So let\u2019s discuss here something I don\u2019t think I\u2019ve touched on yet: just how important it is to surround yourself with the right people.<\/p>\n

I\u2019ve learned the hard way just how important it is to distance yourself from negative people who drag down your job search and your spirits. In general, if someone always makes you feel worse about yourself and doesn\u2019t give anything to your relationship, why are they still in your life? Sometimes you can\u2019t cut them out (family), but sometimes you can. I\u2019m not saying to stop talking to anyone who\u2019s ever said anything less that outrageously positive about your job search, but you have to set boundaries. If your mother, father, brother, partner, etc., keep putting down your job prospects or saying hurtful things (whether they realize it or not), tell them that you need them to back off on this one issue. Tough love isn\u2019t always constructive.<\/p>\n

As for friends and such, take the same stance. The people in your life (I\u2019m hoping for the most part) only want what\u2019s best for you. It\u2019s really about acknowledging your own importance and what you <\/i>need. The people in your life should respect this and should want <\/i>to give you what you need.<\/p>\n

So take a step back and think about whom you have in your life and how they help\/hinder your job search, or any other area of your life. It might feel like a big leap to ask for space or help, but if they care for you at all they\u2019ll support you and your needs.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

by Diana La Femina, Head Editor, INALJ South Carolina Asking for the Support You Need Every month I need to write a blog post with advice to you, and every month I\u2019m faced with the same problem: I don\u2019t feel I\u2019m qualified to be giving advice. Oh, I can tell cautionary tales (\u201cdon\u2019t do what…<\/p>\n

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